your home when is good enough, good enough

You can probably run the scenario over in your mind, and shake your head in agreement that you have “been there, done that”.
You get a phone call from an old friend who moved away five months ago. She happens to be in town, and wonders if she can stop by in about half an hour. You are mortified at the thought, looking from room to room of your home, noticing the hundreds of things you will need to do before she arrives. You mention in exasperation that your house is a mess, and you would be so embarrassed for her to see it, but she responds by telling you, “I’m coming over to see you, not your house!”. You promise yourself that this scenario is never going to happen again, and while your friend visits you that day, telling you about her move to a new city, you are distracted and are only enjoying yourself slightly, because the dust and sinkful of dishes are heavy on your mind.
So when is your home good enough to visit?
All too often, we aim at perfection when having house guests. Therefore, all too often, we don’t enjoy ourselves because we never hit perfection. Is there really a happy medium? Is there really a time when your home won’t be perfectly spotless, but you can enjoy your visits with friends and family anyway?
Let me give you some input and some breathing room. If you let these basic thoughts sink in and allow yourself to really believe them, you will be able to enjoy company much more, and will have no need to spend two weeks cleaning and planning before they come.
Don’t expect complete perfection, especially if you do not live alone. Your aging mother, your spouse, children, roommate, or another person you share your home with will not always see cleanliness the way you do. You may live with people who do not share your love of detailed and immaculate cleaning habits. If this is the case, you need to aim for balance, and what can be good enough, if you don’t have the time to do it all yourself.
The shame in a home often comes from unfinished projects, or broken fixtures and things that should already be fixed. Half painted rooms, broken cupboard hinges, clogged toilets and broken windows that have needed attention for weeks or months, are more noticeable, and more in need of immediate attention than a couple of dirty glasses in the sink, a surface that hasn’t been dusted yet this week, or a jacket that wasn’t hung up. It isn’t small things that give your home the lived-in look that show your home is not very important to you—it is the big, unfinished projects that are never attended to. And I’m sure you will understand that I am not referring to those who are not financially or physically able to take care of these needs for a time. I’m speaking generally, and about those who are able to do something about it.
Don’t avoid company if you don’t have new furnishings, or the best of everything. If your home is in tact, and your structure is solid, with your rooms completed(finished painted walls, clear sinks and toilets, doors and cupboards that function properly), your home is fine for guests. Everyone is in a different place in life-some people are well off financially, some are poor, some are newlyweds that are just starting out, and some are famliies with small children and the daddy is working two jobs to keep food on the table. There is no shame in not having the biggest and the best. Taking care of what you have is more important.